There is nothing in the world sadder than losing the loved one. It is one of the most desperate things everyone faces in a lifetime :'(
When your friend or family member loses someone, you have to face the fact and need to say right things to them.
Your words can make or break their feelings. So you need to find right words to speak to the affected people, and it is a hard part to put everything together, but you have to be strong and avoid undesired moments between you both. It is a bit uncomfortable to express yourself at that time.
You need to choose correct words to tell them how you honestly feel from your heart. You should let your friend or family member know that you care about them by attending the funeral, calling them and visiting them after the funeral. Offer a hug and tell them that they are not alone in their sad time.
Communication plays a significant part and also dominant in decreasing their pain. Your words work as a medicine sp be comforting and careful with what you speak.
Here are the things to say when someone dies
- Let them know you are there for them
First, comfort them by sitting beside them and hold their hands. Offer genuine support and show them that you are there to share what they feel.
In that time, they feel helpless, hopeless, sad and often gets depressed. Say them words like I am sorry, I am here for you; I can understand what you feel, You are not alone to express your best condolence.
- Share memories
Share your memories with the person who passed away and tells them how good you feel about them.
Tell them the times the passed one took care of you, good times you spent with them and shared good stories. It helps them to get comfortable and supports ta hem in the healing process.
Do not overstress the point that you miss them, tell their name frequently. The person in grief would feel happy when they hear the name of the lost one and brings them into the real world.
- Write a card or letter
If you are far away from the person, write a letter or card and send it to them. Write it in a sympathetic way leaving condolences with love and care.
- Do not compare their loss
It is the worst thing to compare their loss to someone else. Do not say things like this happened to my other friend or I can understand as it happened to myself like that.
Everyone has an own way of feelings, grieving, and healing process.
Each one has individual experiences, and some people cry for years for their loved one. So, do not compare them.
- Offer them some help
When someone close dies, the person goes through severe depression, and they get into physical and mental pain.
They may not feel to eat or cook something, So, frequently visit them, pick up their favorite food or groceries.
What to say when someone dies unexpectedly
If you lost your words at the funeral and did not know what to speak, here are some of the things you can say to them:
- I cant say anything about what you lost; I am very sorry, but you need to get strong. Please know that my prayers and thoughts are with you always;
- I am so sorry to hear this. It's unexpectable, and It's a hard thing to face. Never hesitate to call me if you want to talk and know that I am always here to help you.
- I miss his/her shining smile, and I still can't believe that this happened. Stay strong, and I am here for you.
- I wish I could share your hurting pain. I am just thinking about your all day and praying for your pain.
Things like this help them to get comfortable and support their heart. You may not take their pain all away, but you can stay with them in their tough times.
Never leave them alone and if they want you to be with them, do not hesitate to offer your help. Take care of them and be empathetic!